Dear Kim,

01Jun08

Hi! Long time no talk, how are you?

Okay now that I’ve gotten the initial pleasantries of letters out of the way, I want to tell you something.

I read your xanga. I think you still know this. I’ve most likely commented on one of your entries in the past. Xanga, Myspace, Facebook, these online social networks allow me to hold on to the last vestiges of friendship with folks, friends, acquaintances from another lifetime. While I know I should cut folks out of my life, curiosity gets the best of me. Simply put, I still want to know how folks are doing. I still want to feel connected to you, to them, to anyone who I once had a meaningful conversation with, shared a pint and some french fries, laughed at who knows what.

Your xanga posts worry me. Most of them revolve around your romantic relationships. When I knew you, you were attached to someone you thought you were going to marry. That person is no longer in your life and you consistently write about men who seem to treat you like you mean nothing to them in the day and something more in the evening.

Kim, you are an amazing person. I know we haven’t seen each other in a while, but I know you are amazing. You give more of yourself to your friends, but I always knew you to stand your ground, to not be pushed around. I don’t want to say “Everything’s going to be all right” or “There’s someone out there for you” because I’m not sure if that’s true. What I do know is that at one point you didn’t put your happiness in other peoples hands. You created a world of satisfaction all on your own.

I wonder where that Kim went. I know she’s still around. Your relationship woes aren’t irrelevant, nor are they extraordinary. It sounds like the same woes that four cougars discuss on the daily in Sex in The City. Life is more interesting than that four group of women who propose that it revolve around cosmopolitans and bickering. It feels like some women have concluded that the world developed in Sex in The City is the world that all women should strive to achieve. Seriously? Why? You are more attractive than the Carrie’s, Samantha’s, Miranda’s, and Charlotte’s of the world Kim.

I want you to realize this. I hope you see it. I may be a million miles away, but I think of you and hope you are happy. Because of all people in this world, you deserve it. As does everyone else.

Take care of yourself,

L

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